aandwmarried

08.08.26 Update: my wife and I have been tested. Currently, we have a schedule with our primary care physician to be tested every three to six months. Our tests came back as reactive for HSV1. We have no symptoms.

TLDR: Even if we don't play we would love to make new friends. Send us an email/text if you want to get to know us. We are on SDC (aandwmarried) as well as on Reddit (pansexual_Christian). We share the accounts and check them regularly. We are new, but very much wanting to learn and grow in the ENM community with the right people. If you text us with an empty profile and a simple “hi” or “hey” we will ignore it. Unsolicited dick pics will get you blocked. No, we do not have or use discord/tele/etc. We are not a DTF (down to fuck) couple and not looking for a DTF situation.

Brace yourselves it is a long read if you want to know about us.

About us:

Our names are Andrew and Wendy. We are a late-forties couple who have been married for over 27 years now and have been together as a couple since '95. We are secure in our relationship and enjoy talking about sexual possibilities. We are exploring the possibility of spicing up our sex life. We are not trying to fix anything in our relationship nor are we trying to fix anything in anyone else’s relationship. We do not play separately and do not wish to play with only half of a couple. For us, all parties need to be on the same page.

We are always busy and so delays in responses should be expected. We are very new to this and will be very shy in person (like at events and such, but very personable if approached). Ultimately, we would love to have a “friends with benefits” situation if we get to that point... for certain we would love to meet people who are in the lifestyle that we could become friends with even if we don’t play with them.

Andrew leads worship at an LGBTQ+ affirming church and both of us are very involved in our church. We are religious, but do not push our beliefs down other’s throats. We live out our faith by showing love and acceptance towards all humans. Andrew is also an author and a recording artist amongst other things.

As with most people discretion is a must.

Wife and hubby use a vape (no longer smokers). We have never been 4-2-0, but we don’t care if others do so long as they are not impaired around us. We do not drink heavily. My wife may have a beer when we go out, but being impaired is not a turn on for either of us because we want to receive/give enthusiastic consent all around.

Neither of us are straight. We are excited and also nervous about exploring this aspect of our sexuality. She is comfortable kissing and staying above the belt with women, but if she clicks with someone then she would enjoy exploring more. He is pansexual and can enjoy all body types/gender. Just because he is not straight does not mean that he wants to play with any and every guy. We are both respectful of boundaries and any play that may happen will be fully consensual and with enthusiastic consent or it will not happen.

Pushy people will not be considered. We want to get to know you and have you get to know us. Neither of us thinks that making fun of or putting down a spouse during sex games is fun or sexy. Also, guys… seriously… enough with the dick picks. If we want to see it we will ask… both of us prefer to get to know the person and that has nothing to do with the size or shape of your cock. We do NOT care about how big it is nor do we want to see it as your opening volley to getting to know us. If you send a DM and that is what you send… you are blocked.

Play desires/levels:

Currently our boundaries and play comfort levels are very situational. With the right people, we feel like we could explore many things (up to and including possibly full swap after we have gotten to know the couple and are extremely comfortable). We are all about “enthusiastic consent”, meaning if a person is not excited about something then it is a “no” or “not now”. Both of us would only play in the same room and neither of us are willing to do a hall pass (nor do we want to play with someone who is on a hall pass).

Both of us believe in the right of any person(s) that are playing to be able to halt the play at any point.

We like listening to podcasts like We Gotta Thing and Normalizing Non-Monogamy and then discussing the episodes together. We also enjoy making our own porn... so we have lots of videos and pictures (as you may have noticed on our page). With the right couple, it would be fun to make a video together.

Experiences:

The experiences we have had have been primarily playing with each other at resorts out in the open. Seeing others near us who are having sex while we are also having sex at the pool has been a big turn on for both of us. We have interacted once with a couple and my wife greatly enjoyed watching me go down on the husband while his wife also watched. Most recently we interacted with a very respectful single male that we have known at a resort that we frequent. It was very natural and consent was discussed every step of the way. He was able to pleasure her with his hands and mouth (soft swap only) while we were in the pool and made her cum multiple times. He has become a friend with benefits.

Looking for:

We initially thought that we would be interested in single men, but we had some rather unfortunate interactions involving consent issues with some guys at a resort and that has made us hesitant to play with them. We have found interactions with couples to be very fun and less stressful. So, that is how we are proceeding for now. We are not opposed to speaking with single females or single males as long as you know that play is not likely and we have to really connect before we would even be willing to entertain the thought of meeting in person and even then there is no expectation or guarantee that we will play. Mutual trust and value as a human being is an absolute must.

We are not looking for a poly relationship. We also really like kissing. We will always respect other's boundaries, but if kissing makes you uncomfortable please let us know because it's something we need if we play. We would love to meet people who are LGBTQ friendly... or even better if they are in that community. We are respectful of boundaries.

We would really like to meet couples who are comfortable with their relationship. We also would love to connect with couples who are ENM and religious because it would be a shared interest and commonality that we connect with. It is not a must, but this is something we absolutely look for. We do not care about body type. We do understand that some level of attraction is necessary for all involved, but we see that as subjective and not based on using a scale or looking at BMI. (body mass index). We like personality and that is what will help us connect with you. We are not looking for a DTF situation.